i think a dad must embrace that we are not as connected as mothers to their kids, but damn we are fun. We also realize in a different way the ways our kids behave and grow. While mothers see it as a natural slow way of entering the cycle of eventual growing . dads are lik WOWWWW this is my kid??? and the great part is that they also mess with you knowing that they cannot do it with their mother. so they have a deeep understanding ( not really , but lets put it that way) of dealing passively with dad. Dad knows and like to play tricks on them and also rewards. like a dog , but for kids. We are likely to give candy if they behave good, we are likely to see more fun movies with them than mother, We love to spoil them a bit, but in return, IN RETURN , they are obligated to do as promise, and the downfall of this is that they dont often do it , and that is when all the alarms start to break.
Today I brought kenji and andri to their respectives Krippe and Kinder, and i had 5 hours of solitude to do what i would like to do, Later i picked them up, and play with them , two kids , one ball and dad, how wrong could that be.
Caos appeared and kenji wante the ball, Anri had no chance whatsoever to take the ball out of his older brother, so he felt dissapointed and started to cry loud. soooo.. dad went to kenji, told him to give the ball to andri because he had and stood no chance against him, i actually told him that he should sometimes give him the ball more often, he started to cry because he really wanted to play football like football, not like 2 year old playing or trying to play football,
the result
two kids crying at the same time, , each one of them have their reasons. are they valid reasons? well for their age they are, but how to cope with 3 different minds, with 3 different reasons , mine si actually more flexible and democratic, but my kids dont believe in democracy still, they are still cave mans making te law of the stronger. Switzerland is too soft in kids,
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